Subject-verb-object

it is the same God who empowers them
To each is given
who apportions to each one individually as he wills
God arranged the members
each one of them, as he chose
But God has so composed the body
And God has appointed in the church

Have you noticed the subjects, verbs, and objects in this entire passage? God is the Subject, the Doer, the Actor performing the verbs. We are the objects, the ones benefiting by the Actor's actions.

We receive spiritual gifts because God gave them to us. We don't have them naturally, and we don't go out and shop for them, and we don't develop them through striving. The Creator-God knows perfectly what he is about, and he is so ordering the church and composing the body that he gives spiritual gifts precisely as he deems best.

Where does that leave us with our myriad of reactions to spiritual gifts?